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Father’s Day – Taking comfort in remembrance

Freddie Chandler
Freddie Chandler
Father’s Day is a time when the world celebrates the bond between fathers and their children. Yet, for some of us, if Dad has died, this day can evoke a mixture of emotions. In this blog, we hope to provide support and guidance to those who find themselves navigating the complexities of remembering their father on this special day.

Acknowledging your emotions:

When Father’s Day is coming up and the day arrives, it’s natural for a wave of emotions to wash over you. From sadness and longing to gratitude and love, each feeling is valid. Remember that it’s okay to grieve and mourn the absence of your father. Allow yourself the space and time to reflect on the impact he had on your life and the legacy he left behind.

Creating rituals and traditions:

Honouring the memory of your father on Father’s Day can be a meaningful way to keep his spirit alive. Consider establishing new rituals or carrying forward traditions that were special to him. Whether it’s visiting his favourite place, preparing his favourite meal, or taking part in activities that you both enjoyed, these acts can serve as a bridge between the past and the present, allowing you to connect with his memory.

Chaplain talking to person

Seeking support:

During times of grief, it’s essential to surround yourself with a supportive network. Reach out to family, friends, or seek comfort from a bereavement service or grief counsellor who can provide guidance and a listening ear. Sharing memories, tears, and laughter with others who understand the unique pain of losing a father can be immensely healing.

Take time for some self-care:

While Father’s Day may remind you of your loss, it’s important to prioritise self-care and nurture your emotional wellbeing. Plan some activities that bring you joy and offer a sense of comfort. It could be spending time in nature, practicing meditation or mindfulness, journaling your thoughts, or seeking solace in creative outlets such as art or music. Remember, taking care of yourself is not a betrayal of your father’s memory but a testament to the love you shared.

Finding meaning in loss:

In the midst of grief, it can be challenging to imagine a life without your father. However, the journey of grief is unique for each person, and over time, you may discover a renewed sense of purpose and meaning in honouring your father’s legacy. Whether it’s continuing his values, the way you live your life, pursuing a passion, or supporting others in need, finding ways to keep his memory alive can bring comfort and healing.

Father’s Day may stir a mix of emotions, but it also offers an opportunity to reflect on the impact your father had on your life. Take time to notice your grief, remember your father’s love, (including letting go of all the bits that weren’t so good- we all have rows growing up) and seek support when needed. Through rituals, self-care, and finding meaning in loss, we hope you discover moments of peace and healing as you remember your father on this special day.

If you would like a way to remember Dad this Father’s Day, please feel free to add a picture and a message to our online memory wall:

 

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